Men are more likely to cheat than on their partners than women: Shivanya

Bengaluru, 23rd Sept 2020 : 

 

Couples break up for many reasons. Relationship pundits often attribute breakups to money, in-laws, children, and other normal life stresses. But those are not the reasons why couples break up. All those seemingly disparate problems boil down to three underlying reasons. Shivanya Yogmayaa is a Relationship & Intimacy Coach and  answered many question about relationship problems and why do most men cheat on their partners

She is internationally certified in the therapeutic modalities of EFT, NLP, CBT, REBT, and Transactional Analysis & Hypnotherapy. Also Practices Intuitive Healing through Reiki Chakra & Crystal  Therapies.  She has over 10 years of experience in guiding Singles and Couples, on relationship challenges, post marital counselling   intimacy issues, pre divorce counselling post-breakup or divorce recovery, conscious parenting, mental and emotional well-being.

She uses Holistic Psychological & Practical approach to resolve issues 

Her own breakthrough became her Life Work & Message.  She also writes her own blog to raise Relationship Consciousness. Life & Relationships are mirroring you is her understanding.  She believes in *When You Heal Relationship Heals*

 According to Shivanya  men are more likely to cheat their partners than women. She also explained many reasons behind this statement and said that there are many more reasons that men cheat on women.

Shivanya  said “Though both men and women cheat, men are more likely than women to do it. According to a General Social Survey (GSS), 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had a sexual relationship with someone other than their spouse while married. Along with religion, family background, men’s biological as well as cultural factors are also linked to how likely they are to cheat.”

She also explained the reasons behind this act, some of the reasons she stated are Men are most likely to have multiple partners in terms of evolutionary biology as they have less to lose. The reason behind the affair might be the boredom and lack of pleasure in the relationship. 

On average, a male’s brain is, evolutionarily, more primed towards sexual conquest. In a few cases, it is their insecurity which makes them look towards the other woman for validation. Men are also most likely to cheat when they are closer to someone who is already a cheater, which gives their action a sense of validation.

Not only had this she also said that “Another common reason for cheating is that they lose interest in their partners. Many times it so happens that women get so involved in their partner’s interests- likes and dislikes that they forget themselves and the person they used to be. As a result, men find that you are not the same person they once loved and thus gradually lose interest.

Immaturity is another common reason for cheating among men. This is primarily true for young couples, where the men are often not mature enough to value the relationship. Their vague sense of ego might stop them from being committed to their partner.”

Shivanya  said that many partners after getting cheated usually have a doubt that is it possible to stay together after being cheated. So she said, “ Well, YES. It is hard but not impossible to regain the relationship you desire. You need to also understand that it is a healing process and it won’t happen over the night. It may take months and sometimes even years to completely heal, recover, and rebuild the relationship.”

After being cheated in a relationship the emotions of a person are affected very badly so if you are trying to rebuild your relationship with your partners there are some things that you should keep in mind

Some of the important points that you should check are Is he accountable for his action?; Is he justify his action?; Does he want the same? ; Is he patient enough?

She also stated that surviving infidelity for a partner is very tough, some of the techniques to survive this are “that one should start with acknowledging his/her pain. It is normal for a person who is betrayed to feel self-hatred, depression, sorrow, and even anger. Don’t ever neglect the emotions and trauma you are going through. Also, remember not to solely blame or take the blame on yourself. Women often take the blame themselves for their partner’s cheating.” 

Shivanya  said that “As a Relationship Coach & Holistic Healer , I find most of the reasons that cheating men use to justify their infidelity fascinating because almost all of these reasons imply that cheating was the only logical solution to their relationship issues and other life problems.

It might sometimes get too complicated to handle you. Thus seek help. Reach out to a relationship coach or therapist instead of involving your friends and family members for support. A counselor has the tools and resources to help you both pass through this difficult phase and appear to be more united than ever with a stronger bond in your relationship.”